The Problem With the Problem is That the Problem is Most Likely the Problem

Life certainly can be perplexing at times…and challenging, and interesting, and humorous-but definitely not boring. If you get bored, you must not live on the same planet as I do. There really are not enough hours in the day to get everything done that needs to be done, let alone things you just want to do…or is there?

We all have 24 hours in a day. I will be the first to say that sometimes prioritizing is just a little bit difficult for me. I know the things that need to be done, but I am somewhat easily distracted by what I want to do. Oh I do the major things like paying bills on time, keeping up on certifications for work, laundry, etc. but there are trees/bushes that need trimming, a house that needs some spot painting, windows that need cleaning-you get the picture. I just can’t motivate myself enough to do those kinds of things. The problem is not that there isn’t time, the problem is my lack of drive to get those things done. After all, there are books to be read, dogs to play with, miles to be ran, and for goodness sakes-BLOGS to write! I’m glad I’m not much of a phone talker. In fact I despise talking on the phone for long periods of time. I am more of a “get to the point” type of talker and not much on idle “chit-chat.” Good thing or that would be another time consuming problem.

The other day I tried to start my Saturn Ion with the Jeep key…it didn’t work. The problem was not that I did not have a key, but that it was the wrong key. The problem was user error, lol (sometimes I scare myself)! Now, I could have blamed that key for not working-after all, it was a vehicle key. Would that have changed the outcome? You don’t think so either? Well then, great minds think alike except sometimes mine doesn’t fire on all four cylinders (or is it six or eight)? I may have also left my purse in the Jeep that I had driven earlier in the day, but I won’t mention that. That could have been a problem if I had been stopped by a friendly police officer 🙂

Just Slightly
Just Slightly

There are two words in the English language when put together read something like this, “personal responsibility.” Here we go: Responsibility – (American Heritage Dictionary)1. The state, quality, or fact of being responsible. 2. Something for which one is responsible; duty, obligation, or burden. Responsible – 1. Involving personal accountability or ability to act without guidance or superior authority. 2. Capable of making moral or rational decisions on one’s own and therefore answerable for one’s behavior. 3. Capable of being trusted or depended upon; reliable.

Now, if I oversleep whether by not setting my alarm or by shutting it off and am late for work, is the problem the traffic or the time clock at work? What if I get written up? Is the problem then that my employer/manager is unfair (even if there are clearly spelled out guidelines)? If I get a “bad” assignment due to my tardiness, can I blame my peers for this problem?  If my co-workers have to continually work short and pick up the slack because I have excessive absences (totally hypothetical) and are a little annoyed with me is that their problem? True, they have complete control over their actions, but the problem about the problem is that my lack of personal responsibility IS THE PROBLEM.

How much in our society could be remedied if people would just start taking personal responsibility for their actions. Folks want to piss and moan because they can’t pay their bills, or don’t have enough money to do what they want, yet getting a job or a 2nd or 3rd job is out of the question. Now I realize that it has been a difficult economy, minimum wage is difficult to live on, and the price of everything has gone up. It is challenging to live and have the basic necessities. I’m not down playing those facts. Moreover, I am speaking of those who have the talent and resources to move ahead and just don’t want to do it. There are college educations that are never used because well, they just aren’t interested in that field anymore. Or, pure laziness has become a way of life, and it is much easier to watch TV all day and hope the “employment van” stops at your door. It always amazes me too, how people can afford what they want especially when it comes to supporting their habits. They can’t pay the gas bill, but those cigarettes and booze? No problem! So it becomes the gas company’s fault when the gas is shut off-mean old gas company!

It takes a little effort to fill out a job application. Is it fun? Not generally. I hated every application, resume, cover letter, etc. I had to ever fill out. Not to mention jumping through all the hoops of education, student loans and the like. What-you flunked your test because you didn’t study? Well, I’m sure that darned old test was just too hard and had content on it that was never covered in class. Oh, you didn’t take notes or show up for class half the time?  The system must be the problem.

There are those who want a quick fix to everything. They want to lose weight but don’t want to put in the effort to exercise or change their eating habits so they blame the airlines for charging them for two seats because they take UP two seats. Is the seat size the problem? Dumb- dumb people get burned from hot coffee at a fast food joint and sue the company with the help of dumb- dumb lawyers (coffee is hot?-Who knew)?  The coffee was definitely NOT the problem.

I work in a profession where I care for a lot of people who come in with the same issues time and time again. It’s always something/someone else’s fault. They don’t take their medication correctly or at all and want to say that it isn’t working. They may be diabetic and still eat whatever they want or they don’t show up for their routine doctor appointments. Again, I am not speaking of those who don’t have health insurance or can’t afford their medication. Those are the ones who generally do not come in until they are very sick. Unfortunately a lot of people treat hospitals like a bed and breakfast-“three hots and a cot” but then leave continuing to do those things that got them there in the first place. THAT is a problem!

In the running world, there are also those who gripe because they, as spectators, don’t get to indulge in post race refreshments. Seriously, really? Maybe race directors should just start handing out medals to all who are near the finish line as well. What-running a race whether it is a 5k, 10k, 1/2 marathon or marathon takes training/effort??? Let me tell you something-the reward is in the journey that gets you to the starting line. The finish line is the icing on the cake. Don’t give me some sad ass excuse that you can’t accomplish something like that. It’s all in the WANT to as explained in the next paragraph.

I have a twitter friend whom I do not know personally but from what I know, he is a fine young man. He is battling cancer and is a runner. Just the other day, he received platelets at 0600 at a hospital, and not long after ran 10 miles. He’s been on several different medications that have crappy side effects and yet he runs with nausea and fevers. Today, he has not been able to keep any food down. He has been training for and will be running the Ventura marathon on September 7 (not his first marathon). To put it bluntly and honestly…he is my hero. On those days when I’m a little sore and don’t actually feel like running or feel like quitting, I think of Alex…and I suck it up. I stand in awe of people like him and I hope I can be half the person he is.


There are others who I could mention. I’ve already talked about my mother in a previous blog about how hard she works and never complains. That is why I have so little tolerance for laziness and half baked excuses. I’m so SICK of the “whoa is me” attitude and “my life sucks because I don’t have enough money” mentality. If you have your health my friend, you are rich indeed. If you don’t take care of yourself-body/mind/spirit…you have no one to blame your problems on but yourself. That’s just the way I see it. If you don’t like it, I really don’t care. I’m just in THAT kind of a mood…and I’m  keepin’ it real!

There are a lot of overcomers in the world. The problem many times is that people want instant gratification. That is why it is easy to sell lottery tickets. No one wants to WAIT for anything, whether in buying things, relationships, education…you name it. The sad thing is that most of it is self serving-it is a “get what I want, when I want, and how I want it” mentality, no matter what it may cost someone else.

As of this date, I have four days until my goal race. All I can do now is trust my training and feed off the good vibes from all of the people who have encouraged me along the way. I LOVE the running community. No matter the outcome, I have experienced much joy in the journey and discovered that my body can do far more than what I ever thought capable. Besides, at the finish line there are always free bananas!


Let me tell you the secret  that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.

–Louis Pasteur

Until we meet again,


You may never like anything I write- and then you may like something very much. But you must believe that I am sincere in what I write.”

–Ernest Hemingway


4 Thoughts

  1. I totally agree with this whole post. There are so many people that want to point the finger to someone else instead of taking responsibility. Everyone seems like they are entitled to things and don’t want to work for it. Your cancer friend is an inspiration, it makes me think how I complain about a run, and then there are people like that out there who are going through so much and still running.
    4 days till your race, good luck!!!
    Let me tell you what I tell all my friends when we walk to the starting line of a big race. Your training has gotten you here, now let your heart carry you. You have a chance to be great, do not fear greatness!!!
    You got this!!!

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